What Women Want (November 2007)
Welcome to the Cameron Cruise monthly insight into What Women Want?
What women want? is the question which haunted Sigmund Freud and whilst he made some groundbreaking discoveries on the very essence of human nature, he famously confessed that the one crucial answer that all men are seeking eluded him: "the great question that has never been answered, what does a woman want?"
Had Freud lived long enough to harvest the wealth of knowledge that arose in recent years from the field of evolutionary biology and psychology, he might have not only obtained an answer but he might well have died of syphilis instead of cancer.
Extensive research conducted by an array of scientists such as Richard Dawkins, Matt Ridley, Geoffrey Millar and Robin Baker have opened up a veritable Pandora's box. The genie is out of the bottle and the Machiavellian male can now enter the bars and clubs of Dublin, armed with this information and can employ it with devastating effect.
A woman, whether she be shy and virginal or a nymphomaniac like Samantha in Sex and the City, is left with little conscious choice but to sigh and acquiesce to the ruthless male who knows the science of seduction. As inevitable as the changing of the seasons, a man who is versed in what woman find compelling and attractive will discover that women are just waiting to let themselves be seduced.
As David DeAngelo, leading dating coach is found of saying- "Attraction isn't a Choice". Women do not consciously choose to be attracted to a man: they either feel it or they do not. Attraction is nature's way of taking over our bodies long enough for genes to mix with other genes as sex is a gene mixing mechanism. Richard Dawkin's critical work, the Selfish Gene, which was published to much fan-fare in 1976 and cemented his reputation, convincingly illustrated that we as a species only exist to replicate.
In other words, our species, homo-sapiens, are merely vehicles, conduits if you will or "giant lumbering robots" for genes to replicate. Genes don't exist to serve us but rather we exist to serve them.This means that a man must have survival and replication value for a woman to feel attraction and for her to either initiate or to consent to sex.
It is funny how women have atavistic, primal responses to traits and displays of raw-masculine power. Funny unless you know that women are hardwired to be attracted to the alpha male of the group. Seeing such raw, aggressive, undiluted masculine displays of power is an aphrodisiac for them.
It sets you apart from the epicene eunuchs who are masquerading as males in our society today. Girls just fantasise about a Marlon Brando from Streetcar, a Heathcliff from Wuthering Heights, a George Clooney or a Daniel Craig - a real masculine man, one who is confident, moves slowly, has a commanding presence, a deep voice and does not let events faze him. A passionate, exciting and dangerous man, that does not apologise for his sexuality nor judges a woman for hers.
New York Times journalist Neil Strauss's enchanting book The Game was a global best seller two years ago where he joined a community of self-styled Pick Up Artists, who dedicated themselves to becoming ladies men and set about learning the art of wooing with driven dedication. This book became a cult phenomenon unto itself and it led to an explosion of "Lairs" -online forums where guys meet to discuss seduction tactics around the world. Yes, there is one here in Ireland and it happens to be one of the busiest in Europe and every weekend guys hit the bars and clubs in Dublin, employing the latest tactics and techniques to devastating effect and then file field reports for analysis after.
I have immersed myself into this murky word and become a highly skilled and proficient Pick Up Artist. More on that to be revealed at a later stage.....
We do know from Nancy Friday's book, My Secret Garden, that women are very, very sexual creatures. We are still hard-wired for that environment as evolution is a process that is measured in tens of thousands of years and has simply not caught up to adapt to our current environment. Sex is a high risk strategy for a woman so she has to be very selective about how she chooses a mate wheras in contrast, there are few, if any consequences for a man, hence why we can be less discriminating and so prolific in our sexual escapades.
We are constantly primed for sex, locked, loaded and ready to fire at will. Guys will generally sleep with anybody if they are horny enough. Equally today, there are dire consequences for the frisky female as she can be labeled a slut. This word slut is interesting as it is actually a weapon that women use against each other and reflects the double standard which remains today when it comes to bedroom politics.
A true ladies man is discrete and never casts judgement or makes a big deal about a woman having sex. The word slut is simply not in his vocabulary. A seducer knows that women, particularly busy, successful career women who might use this very website, feel increasingly isolated and aloof from "society" at large.
That is why the polished seducer with a strong, dominant personality will rise above the suffocating limitations of his socially conditioned environment and will dangle a tempting and alluring escape to a woman from her otherwise tedious daily routine. Such men radiate positivity, confidence, joy, beauty and charisma.These qualities can only enrich the lives of others - making you refreshing, irresistible and addictive.
In today's dull, predictable world where we are isolated and increasingly alone, women will inevitably seek you out!
By Cameron Cruise
