Be successful with women without looks / Money.
Be successful with women without looks or money! A lot of guys have limiting beliefs.These beliefs are not only untrue, but they impede your growth and dampen your success.
A classic limiting belief is that I cannot go out with a beautiful woman; a woman will only want either very good looking men or astoundingly rich ones. Contrary to popular perception, as I have already stated, such attributes certainly help, but you can easily have many attractive women as girlfriends even if you are not classically good looking or have a deep wallet.
What is important is having the right attitude, confidence, charisma, humor, a slight bad-boy streak and never, ever be boring or predictable!
You should immediately start looking at the behavior of "naturals" guys that have no problem with women, are natural ladies men and are comfortable with every aspect of sex and model their behavior accordingly. I am always learning too and the key to mastery with anything is to view it as an area of constant improvement.
One such example was the other night when I had the funniest and most confident, brash and alpha male taxi driver EVER! He was half-Jamaican and half-Nigerian. He gave himself the name "Famous".
He was comical, hysterically funny and very talkative.
He asks my girlfriend where she is from, she replied Brazil.
"Oh baby, I love Brazilian girls do you have any friends"? He immediately asked without missing a beat. She replied yes and in an instant, he immediately hands her his phone and says; "Call one for me now".
I was laughing so much and high-fiving him. Here was a guy that made no apology for his natural desires as a man and did not worry about what others thought about him. These are typical characteristics of most men who are naturally good with women. They know that life is a unique and a beautiful gift that is ending one day at a time, so there is no point in wasting what precious little time we have on this mortal coil.
It turns out that my taxi driver, Famous was at the Carnival in Rio and the Love Parade in Berlin. He told us how natural it is to fuck and how he loves to fuck.
"Sex is my sport" was one golden nugget he quipped; "Sex is my favorite exercise, it keeps me fit".
Here was a man that loved women and was not shy about expressing his libido, it was genuinely refreshing.
Insecurity, shyness, social conditioning, nervousness and prudery were utterly alien concepts to Famous. He was a genuinely funny, charming sexually brazen guy. His enthusiasm was so infectious and I felt a nice tingle as I was completely awed by the positively he radiated and his unquenchable zest for life.
My experience has been that most Irish taxi drivers hate themselves, their passengers, their life and everyone on the planet and all they do is snarl and spit critical complaints about the weather/tax/female drivers/immigrants/ and so on.
Such a negative mindset is counter seductive and if you ever find yourself thinking of uttering anything negative e.g. be it at work, on a date, with your family or anywhere else, ask yourself do you want to be like our friend Famous or a typical surly Irish taxi driver with a chip on both shoulders?
You can learn a lot from observing the attitude of naturals.
Another area of your life which you can improve that you can start today is striving to become well read and cultured. A disproportioned amount of women read more men so this gives you an instant advantage. Being cultured is a distinct "demonstration of higher value" as the greatest pick up artist in the world Mystery would say and it will automatically flips the subconscious attraction switches in a woman's brain. Furthermore, it allows you to bond and connect at an emotional level.
This one area that I find gives me the edge. Time and time again, when I was picking up women in bars, clubs, bookshops or whilst shopping for food in Tesco, I struck wide rapport by discussing books in general and deep rapport by talking about the themes of love and loss in novels like Anna Karenina, Birdsong, Captain Corellis Mandolin, Love in a Time of Cholera and other such sweeping epics.
Most girls' eyes will dilate and swoon to themselves; wow, this guy is so intriguing, so cultured and well read.
The key then is to physically escalate the interaction so you don't get stuck in the dreaded friends' zone.
I was recently reading two captivating biographies. One was called Young Stalin by Simon Sebag Montefiore and the other was called The Lives and Loves of Simone De Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Sartre by Hazel Rowley. I would recommend both as they are superbly written and give you a great insight into the minds of three people who had a profound influence on the twentieth century.
What did I learn from these books? They contained many gems of wisdom and compelling anecdotes but of most interest to my male readers here is that you do not need looks or money to attract and sleep with women.
Despite Stalin being a ruthless, psychopathic, penniless killer when as a young political activist whilst, he was operating in the underground before the Russian Revolution and Sartre was an ugly, small, smelly Frenchman - they both got laid like rock stars.
Why was this? From studying both Sartre and Stalin I deduced that they both shared the following traits of men who are successful with women the world over and throughout the centuries.
- They had supreme self-confidence.
- They made no apology for their sexual drive.
- They ruthlessly pursued women.
- They genuinely were indifferent to what others thought about them.
- They lead very exciting, bohemian and highly unusual lives.
- They both said that conventional society suppressed and suffocated women.
- They could analyze and explain the world to the girls.
- They were highly intelligent, extremely well read, very cultured and took a
passionate interest in the world around them. - They were both genuinely witty and were sparkling conversationalists.
I was surprised at how many women they managed to sleep with. Especially given the fact we're talking about a pre-1960s, pre Hippy, pre feminist, pre-Contraceptive Pill, pre-Jenna Jameson, and pre-Promiscuous Girl era.
So if they can have numerous lovers you really have no excuse this day in age!
It seems that the human sexual drive is far stronger than that of whatever hypocritical, conservative, oppressive and anti-human values that happen to be in place in any society at a given time in history. You just have to suck the girls into your own reality.
I would strongly encourage you to increase the amount of novels you read.
Not only will you learn more about yourself and the world around you - being able to talk knowledgeably about books is such a huge DHV and massive comfort builder.
Most guys don't read most girls do. If you join a book club and I bet you that 90 per cent of the people there are female so it is a great opportunity for you to get practice meeting new, intelligent and challenging women.
Expand your mind and explore your consciousness with some books from these lists:
